Sometimes, when we’re aiming towards our dreams, we can become discouraged by numerous factors. There are always bound to be tests along your path to success, but if you’ve already made the first step towards your dream, trust me – you’re already closer than you think. So, without further ado… how to reach your goals and not give up…
Don’t compare yourself or listen to others
Some people may seem to just BE successful at everything they try in life… what you may not realise is just how much work they may have put in behind the scenes when you haven’t been watching. Don’t compare yourself to those who are more popular/earning more/whatever else you may deem to be successful – we all have different dreams and ideas of what we want out of life. Success never just happens over night – and, if it did, you probably wouldn’t even appreciate the fruits of your success anyway.
“Don’t waste your time on jealousy – sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind… The race is long, in the end, it’s only with yourself” – Baz Luhrman
On the other hand, there will always be people who have tried to become successful in the field you’re aiming towards, who have simply given up too early for whatever reason. These people will often try to discourage you from your goal just because they were unable to reach it themselves. Again, these people have no idea of the fire in your heart… if you can keep it burning, you can achieve whatever you want from life.
Keep on target
If you’ve been working on a single goal for some time, but still don’t see any improvement in the situation, don’t give up – learn lessons from how you’ve already done things and try a different approach.
Don’t focus on the goal…?!
Ok – so, I’m going to make a slight contradiction here to some of the things I may have already written on some of these blogs… but there’s good reason for it – stay with me on this one and you’ll understand why I’m introducing this concept to you guys…
When we focus on the goal, we often fall into the trap of continuously measuring our proximity to that goal… say our goal is to lose weight – we may form a habit of weighing ourselves daily to see how close we’re getting to our target weight. This habit is all well and good whilst things are going well… but what happens if, after some time and effort – eating well and working out, we hit a plateau… or worse – put on a pound or two!! We automatically think “this isn’t working” and revert back to our old behaviours and patterns, regardless of the 10pounds we lost initially!!! We go back to our original weight and try the next “fad diet” – over and over again but never seem to lose anything!!
I want to introduce a new concept for us all today – instead of focusing on the goal itself, focus on each little decision you can make to help you achieve your goal… piece of cake or fruit? Fizzy pop or water? Go for a run or stay in bed? Sure, from time to time we’ll need to think of our goals to help keep us motivated to make the right choices… but we don’t need to constantly measure our progress – give yourself a pat on the back for each positive choice made, rather than every pound lost!! =)
Now, I don’t really like this as a heading title because I believe we shouldn’t have to be realistic in our overall goals… I believe if you can dream it, you can do it!!
What I’m trying to say in this heading is… be realistic according to what you’ve achieved in relation to the amount of work you’ve put in. You’re never likely to master something the first time you try… put in the effort, make some mistakes, learn from them and try a different approach.
Remember – YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS!!!
Don’t ever forget, we’re meant to be happy… If what you’re doing right now doesn’t bring that, adjust things – create your life according to the things that bring you happiness. Figure out what you want from life, what happiness means to you then go after it with all your heart…
…and NEVER GIVE UP!!!!
What’s your current goal? Have you been listening to others too much… focusing too much on the constant measurements over the mini achievements… expecting incredible things to land on your plate without making any effort towards finding them? I’d love to hear your feedback/personal responses… so feel free to leave a comment!!
Love, Magic and Fairy Dust 😉